If you have ever been in the losing end of the relationship game, you may still be tormenting yourself with thoughts about “what went wrong?”, “what should I do differently?”, “why don’t men/women respect me”, etc. or affirming your negative beliefs such as “I will never marry”, “all the good ones are gone” or “I always get abused in relationship”, “Men/women can’t be trusted” etc. These thoughts, are a kind of unconscious intention that vibrates in our energetic field and has the power of attracting more of the same. We barely notice the origin of our bad relationship luck.
If our best intentions and actions for finding a partner, dating or taking an existing relationship deeper, are not manifesting, chances are non-coherent patterns are standing in our way. Here are some areas of relationship energetics to consider:
Do you resonate with and allow for phases of relationship to happen in the developmental order of acquaintance phase, friendship phase and 3-4 stages of dating to relationship intimacy? Flowing too fast with instant chemistry may burn out the wiring needed for a long term relationship. Skipping steps in relationship development will lead to problems later. It’s like a baby trying jog before crawling.
Do you expect to go from the stage of when your eyes first met to a wedding in a matter of weeks? Allowing for relationship evolution as each stage of relationship builds on the last creates a stronger and stronger platform. Building a strong energetic base built over time helps to endure the ups and downs of a longer term relationship.
Do you give away your power to choose? After a dating drought we may feel like the next person we date has to be ‘it’! Use the stages of evolution to evaluate if a potential partner actually has what you need and want in a relationship. Be detached as much as possible in this evaluation. It’s not about him/her accepting you – do you accept them? This is can be very tricky because we may want a relationship so badly that we overlook the deficits, or project our ideal image on to someone who is not at all what we want. Relationship heartache results. You could wake up and find yourself married to someone who plays an Elvis radio station 24/7 where you yourself need a daily fix of Mozart and Bach to feed your soul.
Do you enjoy the dating game? Know that a successful courtship doesn’t always end in a marriage or life partner. A successful courtship may also reach the conclusion that both of you are good people with not enough in common at every level to make a long term commitment. You don’t have to end things with a drama to declare this conclusion. Instead appreciate the opportunity for finding out what you need and want in a relationship and gracefully move on. Your field of attraction will have expanded and is sending out vibes for attracting a better match. In the meantime, enjoy getting to know a new person, find out who they are, what their values are and do so independent of what is true for you.
Resonating with all the elements of having a life partner – your masculine/feminine polarity, your values, the stages of relationship development, and the relationship capacity you build at each stage is essential to creating a magnetic field of attraction. It is a simple law of quantum physics that what we resonate with is what we manifest.
Resonate with Your Field of Attraction and Join Pride and Prejudice Repatterning Series. Begins February 9th…If this is an area of growth and transformation you are ready to tackle this year, consider joining the upcoming Pride and Prejudice repatterning series where we’ll explore all of these patterns and more in depth. The series of 3 sessions begins February 9th and will use all of the amazing Resonance Repatterning system Relationship repatternings plus others needed for the unique hologram your participation helps to create. http://www.lighttravels.com/prideandprejudice
If you wish to explore growth and transformation more individually, consider my 12 month telephone coaching session which will include your registration in Pride and Prejudice if you sign up by February 9th!
Also, my friend and colleague Sally Herr from Maine will be doing a session at WORLD PEACE HOLOGRAM on FEBRUARY 17th on the topic “Attract Your Heart’s Desire”
http://worldpeacehologram.org/Program2010/February.asp - it’s free! Just open a WPH Account.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, make the upcoming Valentines Day work for you. Appreciate who you are, your gifts, talents and life achievements to date. Find a way to celebrate yourself in relationship to life and feel your energy expand.
With light and love
Carolyn

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Energize Focus for the Week: ”Appreciate 3 good things that happened for you today” Energetically, we are in the season of appreciation. In the 5 Element and meridian system of energy on which acupuncture is based, Metal element is associated with the season of autumn, and the quality of appreciation. To be in synch with the energy cycles of nature puts our own system in energetic order and while there may be thousands of things we can do, I find the simplest is just the straightforward act of appreciation and /or gratitude. 
